Are You Extending Grace to Others?

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I bought a Christian CD two days ago and have been blasting it my car since. The album is titled “Grace” from the talented Tasha Cobbs, the same person who slayed us with her version of Break Every Chain.

Now, my intention wasn’t to listen to music—I wanted to test my car CD player. In fact, I didn’t want to listen to any gospel song. My relationship with my team members at church was just recovering and I didn’t want a reminder of my “failure” as a worship leader. I thought they detested growth. They thought I demanded perfection. I did? When?

I played the songs all the way till the chords for the “Grace” started playing. The lyrics sounded like every other Christian song, I thought. God loves me. Adores me. Watches over me. You are for me. It wasn’t until the tempo became faster while approaching the bridge that I felt something in me break. (more…)

The Lady Leader: Identify Your Cheerleaders

Identify Your CheerleadersStart here: Week 1 | Week 2

In my previous post, I talked about bagging a degree in Health Services Administration and not knowing what path to take afterwards. But that hasn’t always been the case. I started out as a Mass Communications and Journalism major right out of high school, convinced I had found my OTP (one true pairing). I was quite good at it as I quickly earned myself a sobriquet popular among my peers as “Nose for News.” However, I never understood the need for cheerleaders then.

My brief stint with Mass Communication and Journalism wasn’t accidental. As a kid, I emceed at birthdays, naming ceremonies, and read scriptures out loud in church. But as I transitioned into adulthood, my speaking abilities dwindled. I started to stammer, couldn’t make eye contact. I shied away from speaking engagements and agonized over my diminishing speaking skill.

In my first year of college, fear crippled me as soon as I entered classes that I would writhe in pain and watch others gain recognition for what I came up with. I was afraid of my critics and spoke little.

Of course, a little bit carried over into my internships. In a bid to sound more intelligent, I engaged so many filters during conversations that what was meant to be smooth and eloquent became forced.

How could a promising kid go from Yay to Nay before breaking out? (more…)

Coffee Date: Guest Blogging, New Gadgets, & Graduate School

Coffee Date

Have you ever been on coffee dates? The excitement, the intimate setting, the queasiness from bubbling emotions, and the simple elegance of cafes make me groan in delight! And of course, one of the most amazing things about me is how I manage to maintain an active social media presence and imagine beautiful places while I’m draped in shawls all day long—one my bed.

There are many aspects I find amusing in my mundane life, funny enough to arouse interest but not strong enough to warrant a long post for each one of them. I find myself taking long coffee breaks from this blog because I feel you wouldn’t be interested in a life that isn’t full of Korean drama rama. But how about sharing the mundane with you?

Because you’re busy yet sociable, I’ll bring these exciting news to you via Coffee Dates, a place for us to connect and talk in hushed tones while savoring our favorite cup of lattés or cappuccinos. (more…)

The Lady Leader: How to Prepare for Life After College

how to prepare for life after collegeWeek 1 Here

It’s week two of The Lady Leader: How to Find and Project Your Professional Swag with Confidence, guys, and it’s awesome to be here once again. How was that sound bite? I have a cup of surprise brewing for you all, but today, I will be presenting on How to Prepare for Life After College.

Last week, we talked about “What am I good at?” and identifying your tags. Now, whether you are a veteran or a recent graduate, what I am about to share in this post may be boring, repetitive—because you’ve read about every article there is on transitioning from college to life, but it is gold. Here are 5 things to keep in mind while preparing for life after college.

1. Define Your Vision

Helen Keller once said that “What’s worse than being blind is to have sight but no vision.” Please tell me that after you read the first part to this series, you sat down and took inventory of your strengths and weaknesses. So it wasn’t perfect, but the most important thing was that you gathered your auto parts, assembled the car, and you’re in it.

When defining your vision, these things should come close to mind:

  1. Am I going to Graduate/Professional school?
  2. Do I want to create a small business or a techy start up?
  3. Or do you want a regular 40hr, 9-5 job every week?


The Lady Leader: What Am I Good At?

What am I good atCheck the series introduction here

Eleven months after I graduated from college, I asked myself this question: “What am I good at?” I had trusted my grades and professional network to ease my transition into the real world and flaunted my degrees at interviews. I even scored an interview with the president of a large healthcare organization. But something interesting happened; none of them inspired nor hired me. Tired and unsure of my abilities, I asked myself again: “What am I good at?”

I started out as a Mass Communications and Journalism student but was soon discouraged when well-meaning individuals pointed out journalists’ weak earning potential. Then I made a switch to Nursing because 1) Nurses make big bucks and 2) I can cope with the rigor of the program because I am a bright student in the arts and sciences.

Now here’s the thing: I was taking elective courses at a community college to keep me busy while waiting to get admission into nursing school for two years!  Tired of waiting at home, I settled for Health Services Administration and Gerontology. This was the beginning of my academic and professional mistake.

Identify your Talents, Abilities, Gifts, and Strengths (T.A.G.S)

According to motivational speaker, Jermaine Davis, your T.A.G.S are your natural born strengths. They are what come easy to you but difficult to other people. They are what keep you going when the going gets tough. They excite you even when all compensation is taken away from you.

Here’s a fact: (more…)

5 Reasons You Need to Watch Korean Dramas

5 Reasons You Should Watch Korean DramasI sit in my bedroom with palms planted on my cheeks and my mind flown to a distant land, a land whose language I managed to acquire through years weaning myself from Nollywood. My mom joins me, but her voice is louder and she tries to predict the next scene as usual. I blame myself for getting her into Korean dramas. But there are 5 reasons YOU need to watch Korean dramas.

Unlike the Nigerian entertainment scene where love portions, prostitution, and juju masters duke it out for supremacy, a typical kdrama offers more. There is something about the simplicity and elegance of Korean dramas that sold me completely. It’s a carousel of sorts, taking you through tunnels of hope, despair, anxiety, and happiness in 60 minutes for 15 weeks or more.

Interestingly, Korean dramas are popular. It’s simple: hot guys and an insane number of celebrity follower-ship called fandoms (fan kingdoms) make every fan-girl heart beat out of rhythm. The dramas are ridiculously long but there is something for everyone. Here are the reasons why you should watch Korean dramas. (more…)

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