Hello guys! Happy belated Easter to you all!
I promised you all a post on a different kind of ministry and here it is! With that said, I wanted to get back in the groove of talking about singleness and expectation. Hopefully I can turn this into a series, lol. Being single ain’t that bad; it just takes a while to build a tolerance to loneliness. Right?
Take Miss Mary for example. She’s been active in the church for the past three years. Bible studies, campus ministry trips, Sunday services, Friday vigils…you name it she’s done it all. Now she ain’t that young and her folks have been asking her, playfully, “When are we meeting your Oppa? (Oppa means honey or brother in Korean). To make matters worse, even strangers who hear of her situation feel obligated to offer words of advice and encouragement, the bulk of the talk implying that she isn’t as close to God as she ought to be. She needs to know God on a more personal level, and she should start by trusting God completely…not thinking about men!
Now I’m sure many of my readers are familiar with this kind of scenario; the expectation and the torment that accompanies it. Most times I hear about ladies who have been bullied by their friends that the next thing they do is jump into the next available relationship. But this time, I had to really think about Miss Mary’s situation objectively. No one is taking her out on dates and she is serving the Lord dutifully. The exact prototype that the book of Proverbs 31 talks about! What could be wrong? What is she omitting from her devotion that’s holding up her man?
You are destined for singleness
If God decided to write up a report concerning your life that you would be a spinster for life, will you choose to believe it? Like it or not, we all have our mandates planned out for us by God, and when we declare our faith in Him we automatically surrender to His will and plans for us.
Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honor, and another unto dishonor? (Romans 9:21)
Do y’all want the faith talk or the female talk of hope? We’ve all been conned into believing that we’re meant to end up in a man’s house since the day we sprouted boobs on our chests, each and every one of us.
How wrong! While I’m not writing this to disappoint you, I want us to be real in terms of our purpose on earth. The singles ministry is a really powerful one, and any man who desires to take you out of your betrothal to God has to be worthy of such sacrifice. No man is worthy of you losing sleep over your loneliness because your phone has been silent for two Friday nights. Accept your mandate in good faith and in this case, contending with God’s choice for you is as useless as a sweater on a cat. Can you accept your fate as a spinster for life?
Here it is: If God wanted you married, He will orchestrate the encounter. Boaz was wealthy and available. Ruth did not “have plans” when she chanced upon his field. Ruth’s “eyes of faith” led her to the exact spot where she would meet her Mr. Right, Boaz, whose name means “pillar of strength.” (Kendall and Jones, Lady In Waiting)